Anal sex positions and sexual techniques

Anal sex can be very exciting if both the man and woman are relaxed about their bodies, enjoy anal play and stimulation, and are happy with the idea of anal penetration, it can be very enjoyable.

Anal sex can feel good for a man because the penis is in a tight passage and tightness, for most men, is highly pleasurable. But anal sex can also be pleasurable for a woman because her anus is surrounded by many sensitive sexual nerve endings. The sense of penetration and also of pleasing her partner can be very rewarding too.

Some basic issues around anal sex

It's important to wash well before anal sex, whether or not the couple are going to use a condom: and a condom is essential for all couples who are uncertain of each other's sexual history. As you wash, run a finger around the entrance to the anal canal and indeed a little way inside it. Avoid putting anything that has been in the anus into the vagina in case you transfer any bacteria that create a vaginal infection.

Lubrication is essential for anal sex. The best option is a water-based lube like Astroglide or Probe, both of which are very good. If they dry out, you can just add a bit of water and their slipperiness is restored. Too much lube may just about be enough!
Anal sex

It's important to go slowly as you begin to try anal sex. Playing around her anus with large quantities of lube and your fingers is a good way to get started. Don't penetrate straight away - gently tease her anal opening with a finger tip, so you can get a sense of how much resistance there is. She may open up and invite you in, or she may clamp down. Lots of lube and a small object are necessary to give her a sense of confidence - a little finger is a good thing to start with. If she breathes out and relaxes as you push gently on her opening you may find it easier to gain entry to her body. But remember to look at what you are doing. Her anus is not like her vagina - if you don't look, you may not get in. Her labia are designed to guide the penis into her vagina, but there is no such assistance with her anus. You have to press on the very center of her anus and apply consistent pressure with lots of lube before it will begin to open up.

When your partner has had the chance to get accustomed to the feeling, you can try penetration with your penis, using a very gentle thrusting movement. Start by pressing at the opening, and then add a bit of pressure, then withdraw, then go back again with a tiny bit more pressure - and so on. Penetration can be an unusual sensation the first time it happens, but it can also be quite erotic and enjoyable. The key to success is relaxation and trust, so she must be confident about what you are doing, and confident you'll stop if she tells you to.

When you have achieved penetration, it's nice to try a position where the man can thrust gently and intermittently so as to extend the time before he comes, while he plays with her vagina, G spot and clit with his fingers. This way there is a chance that both partners may come together, though you may not feel this matters.
Anal Sexual Positions

The simplest anal sex position for most couples is for the woman to be on her back, legs spread and knees pulled up. It's a bit like the position she's in when a man licks her clit and vagina as she lies on her back, but as most men know, this can lead to a very sore neck! It can be very helpful to put a pillow under her butt to lift it a little.

The next anal position is on hands and knees - doggy style sex. Your partner's ass is easier to get to than in the position above, but staying in this posture can be tiring, which might make her ass tense up a bit. This means you're less likely to get into it. Try putting some pillows under her chest or belly, so she has some support while she's kneeling. And knee pads are useful too! It will also be easier to get to her ass if she extends her legs a bit sideways and backwards as she kneels.

The third realistic position is to have the woman lying on her side. Her legs should be in the scissors positions, with one perhaps extended more than the other.

A fourth possibility is to have her lying down while her man lies on top of her and enters from the rear.