Comments on vaginal size and penis size

Question: I have had my share of women and I've noticed extraordinary variations in vagina size ranging from vise-like tight ones to huge manhole-sized caverns. As with men, the size of the woman is no indication. I have been with a short woman who had the biggest vagina I have ever encountered and tall voluptuous women who were tight as hell. Having a small size penis, I've found that vagina size is a make-or-break proposition for me. When I've encountered really large ones, I've almost invariably lost my erection. If I can't feel anything, I assume she can't either and I start to feel performance anxiety and lose my erection. Two women in particular, with whom I had a 6 month relationship and a 1 year relationship, had really loose vaginas which were an endless source of anxiety for me. Has anybody else had similar experiences? Has anybody else encountered a really huge vagina?

Answers:

I think this problem has more to do with penis girth than length. I don't have either. I've had one woman that was way too loose but all of the rest were fine. I definitely prefer tighter ones though.

My experience is that vaginas are remarkable in their variability; they shrink from lack of use, and expand, as needed, based on the task at hand. A vagina will dramatically expand for childbirth. On the other hand, a virgin is generally tight (even for a thin penis girth guy like me), but her vagina will expand, based on the demands of what is being accommodated.

Of course there are limits, but vaginas have some muscle tissue surrounding them, and as a consequence, with good muscle tone, the "toned" vagina can squeeze a small girth guy, yet accommodate a big penis as well. While I've never encountered a woman with a "man hole" between her legs, I'm sure they exist. My suggestion is to try a different sexual position that will maximize sensation for both partners.

I'm a little on the thin side, about 4.5 inches for the circumference of my penis. Now the current gf feels a little "looser" than the ex-wife and when we "get going" she is very wet and I feel little friction in the missionary position. (My ex's vaginal tightness was pretty good for my penis size.) I prefer "doggy style" personally for the best sensation for me. She prefers woman on top position, which stimulates her clitoris as well. I love doggy style, but I really want to look into her eyes while making love. So now she kinda likes me to "give it to her hard" while I climax. That means hard and fast in the missionary position until I ejaculate. The loss of friction is replaced by loving but hard and forceful thrusting sensations which I like. And she gets a nice feeling from it as well, and I can tell in her eyes that she enjoys watching me go at it big time.

Not having pressure on your penis really sucks sometimes, I know. My penis is a shade under 6" on a good hard summer's day, but thin as hell and I don't like it. But the gf is more than ok with it. She loves to grab and touch me when I'm smaller and flaccid. I hate it! Even with all the positive reactions she gives me, I still feel ashamed when she touches me unexpectedly while my penis is small and flaccid! Women don't have a penis and they're fascinated by them, it's kinda cool really.

I agree that doggie style is a great sexual position, but my favorite is for the woman to be on top in a squatting position, with her feet next to my hips and her riding up and down. I use my hands to support her ass so that the up and down squatting doesn't tire her legs. This position seems to make even very large vaginas constrict enough to give pleasure even when soaking wet.

I don't like doggy style much, it's not very sexy to see the back of a woman's head. I prefer missionary with her hips on a big pillow. When I thrust, my penis hits her g spot and does she moan! Woman on top is nice. I guess I'm a romantic. I like sexual positions where I can see the woman I'm with.

Why would anyone be surprised that vaginas come in different sizes? Doesn't everything? I hope when I marry it won't be an issue. Large or small, it's a fact that you spend a lot more time talking than you do in bed, so give me a woman I am friends with first. We'll work the rest out as we go.

Woman's answer: I know that for me, for some odd reason, no matter how "wet" I am during missionary, one flip to doggy, and I am dry as a bone. Then it's back to missionary and "eye gazing". I wonder if this applies to other women, too? Anyone know?

Vagina sizes do differ greatly. In that department my wife is large; my penis size is small. Talk about opposites marrying! We have been married so many years that we have both learned to adjust our techniques to compensate and give more stimulation to the other partner. I wish she were smaller, just like she wishes my penis were bigger, but when all is said and done, sex is not the only thing that makes a good marriage. From what I read in places like this, many men let their penis run their lives. Sexual positions and issues should complement a relationship not drive it.

My wife is also large, and after two kids it's perfectly understandable that it takes a bit more to fill it up. I think it's foolish to expect that all men and all women will fit perfectly together. What's important is how well two people's minds and hearts fit together.

I haven't found a really huge vagina yet, but on my travels I've had sex with a very small Thai girl. This was possibly the most uncomfortable experience I've ever had. I don't think I'm particularly thick, but she was extremely tight, which caused me more pain than pleasure and I really had to struggle to keep up an erection.

My previous girlfriend dumped me saying it was because of my penis size, although she'd never had an issue with it before, and we went out for 18 months! After we split, she said she'd not felt much from my 3.5 inch hard penis. I knew she hadn't, but I'd always done plenty of things with my tongue and hands to make her very happy. She'd also done the same to me, and had always said that my small penis felt nice inside her. But then she said my penis was so small that she could no longer put up with it. My current girlfriend loves my 3.5 inches long penis!

I think as the fiery passion of early intimacy begins to wane, physical factors become more of an issue to couples. Early in any relationship if two people share a passion and are reasonably comfortable together sexually, the sex will always be good, because both people will bring new techniques and talents into the bedroom. The first few years usually represents two people's excitement exploring each other's sexuality and sexual tastes. As a relationships matures, however, it becomes harder and harder to surprise your partner with some new "move" that delights and excites them. At this point physical compatibility becomes an issue. Women ideally would like a penis that is as large as they can handle without pain. This means that a woman would like a penis that fills them completely. For some women this size is 5" and for some it is 10". This "ideal" size is not necessarily their "minimum size" or the smallest size that will produce orgasm and sexual satisfaction. The problem is that this acceptable size range can change as a woman matures. A small penis may satisfy a woman before childbirth but not be big enough to fill her vagina afterwards, for example. Resolving this issue will require open and honest communication. Just because a man's partner may want and need more, he as a man need not feel inferior. This is part of the evolution of a relationship for a man with a small penis and his partner.

I've been with only two women in my life. My first girlfriend had a large vagina. Whatever the sexual position I really couldn't feel much. She would be very wet and have 3-4 orgasms like clockwork, probably due to the fact that we could have sex for 20-40 minutes before I had my orgasm. The best sexual position was woman on top with her rocking her body back on forth. I usually had an orgasm after a few minutes of that. The first thing I noticed with my second and current girl is how much "tighter" her vagina is. Reaching an orgasm with her is pretty simple and straightforward. Which one is better? Don't really know. I like being able to make love for 40 minutes and having my partner have 3-4 orgasms. I also like the "tighter" feeling. As with everything in life, large and small vaginas have their pluses and minuses.

I agree with your overall hypothesis that Asian women's vaginas are generally smaller than white women, who in turn are generally smaller than black women. This has been very true in my experience. Being hung short and very thick has been an issue when it comes to vaginal size. I've been with a few women, mostly Asians, but also one white woman, who were too tight for me to enter them. It was like trying to push my penis into a keyhole. Ouch! Frustrating for both of us too. But most women have loved the thickness. And the sensations of stretching them open a bit at a time is exquisite for us both! Once inside the penis length issue can be difficult especially if the woman likes it very deep. I've found that having her on top helps as she can bring her knees up high and get every single 1/4" of my penis inside her; or she can lie on her back with a small pillow under her hips and bring her knees up if I'm on top. That helps too.

One thing that's definitely true for all the women I've been with is that when very aroused they absolutely love having their cervix stimulated. But when a woman is at her level of highest arousal the "average" vaginal size from outer lips to cervix is 5" (the range is 4" to 6"), so most women are too deep for me to reach with my 4.5" long penis. I have dated a few ladies who were short enough for me to reach their cervixes with my penis and when they were super hot they were so turned on by this sensation they both cried. Talk about coming hard! Wow! Now don't get me wrong - I like my penis size a lot. But longer penis guys definitely have an advantage over us shorter guys when it comes to this aspect of sex. My wife has a deep vagina and she's been honest about one former boyfriend she dated who had a very long and very thick penis. She says she really enjoyed having sex with him. So why did she not continue dating him? Because in a lot of ways, she tells me, he was a real jerk. Lucky for me! Most of the time we do very well with my short, thick penis but if she's very hungry we use her long and thick "love toy" and she purrs like a kitten! I don't mind one bit. In fact, I think it's very erotic to watch her take all of it. Wow - ladies sure can get a lot of cock inside of them if they are hungry enough for it. It's quite amazing actually!

Woman's comments: "Cervical sex" is only really phenomenal for me if I am 100% ready to go and so horny that I am ready to just be completely devoured by the man I'm with. If I am not quite to that point, having someone knocking on my cervix hurts like getting a tattoo, not really all that painful but certainly annoying.

For us guys with a short penis, reaching a lover's cervix takes a lot of effort on both partner's parts. But, as you said, when really, really ready it does feel great to most women I've known. On the other hand I knew a wonderful woman who divorced her husband on the basis that his penis was way too large for her - too wide and way too long. Not at all pleasurable, she assured me. She told me she preferred a guy whose penis was small to average in size.

I've had vaginas big, little, wet, and dry and I must say I liked them all. I did not enjoy the dry as much as the others but it was still good in my book. I can certainly tell that when a woman gets very wet, she cannot feel me in her very well. I can't feel it as well at that point either but that just means I can last a little longer. I must admit that I have enjoyed the small ones the best though. I may not last as long but that is because it feels so good.

My first and only sexual experience was basically the same thing. My penis is 9" long when hard and 6" in girth. I got about half way in and hit her cervix which was extremely painful for her. Since I was and still am new to this I had no idea what happened. Needless to say that ended the night but from that point on I was much more careful. I guess what I'm getting at is that penis size is a problem on the other end of the spectrum too.

Tell me if I am wrong, but by studying diagrams of the vagina and cervix, when the lady is on her back, the cervix is on the top of the vagina leading to the womb which is also above the vagina. A long penis goes under the cervix and past it, stretching the vagina length wise as well as the usual circumferential stretch. So this really is not "cervical sex" but penetration that proceeds below and past the cervix. Contact with the cervix only hurts when it is hit head on. If you get past it without poking it the pain subsides or never occurs. My 5" penis is not long enough to get past the cervix though I hit it wrong once in a while and hurt her. After I get my wife really hot and juicy with my tongue and 5" penis she loves me to use a huge dildo on her. She has vaginal orgasms on the dildo far beyond the intensity I can produce with my little penis. This caused distress and difficulty for both of us for a while, but we can now accept it. Often, I cum spontaneously during her earth shakers. Kind of humiliating, but really good too. If I try to fuck my wife when she is really really hot, it is clear she needs something bigger. My 5" penis feels like a little stick stirring a pot of energy radiating velvet honey. I can pound as hard as I want, but I am quickly overwhelmed and come without getting to those earth shakers she is looking for. She orgasms, but would prefer the dildo or a man with a big penis if one was waiting in the wings.

Woman's response: Some women don't like their cervix bumped at all, whether head on or sliding underneath. I can hit my cul-de-sac with a 5" dildo easily. You may want to try different sexual positions. Although it does sound like your wife has a very large vagina. I have one word for you: fisting.

I had one experience with a woman who had a very loose vagina. I couldn't stay hard, and blamed myself. She was much more realistic about it, saying that we just didn't have any sexual chemistry. She also said that she had problems before with smaller than average men, but that it was just the way it was and no big deal. With my wife, I have noticed that sometimes in the early seconds of intercourse, she is less tight, but that she gets tighter as we go on.

Just to let you know that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. Here is some experience from the long-penis side. I would say that 1 in 4 women I sleep with for the first time find my penis to be painfully too long. In other words, when I penetrate deeply, it feels to her that I am crashing into her cervix. It's not the tightness of the fit, but the barrier at the end. Of course, the solution is to hold back and only penetrate partially. But it's ultimately a frustrating experience for both of us. In talking about the issue with women, what they almost all tell me is that an average size penis makes a perfect fit, and the quality of the experience depends on the style and the chemistry. Long penises, on the other hand, are exciting to behold in the mind, probably because of their rarity. But for that quarter of the female population with short vaginal canals, a long penis is excruciatingly painful. So, every guy's body type has its advantages and disadvantages. I may get a big "wow" when a woman first sees my penis, but I then have a higher likelihood of getting struck out. Smaller guys have a higher chance of hitting a home run.

Woman's response: I've said this before and I'll say it again--unlike a penis, a woman's vagina is a muscle. She can develop it to be as tight as she wants. Depth issues have less variability, although if you get a woman extremely aroused, her cervix will move out of the way of her cul-de-sac. But the main area for vaginal stimulation is just two inches in, on the G-spot.

I'm not 'Mr. Experience' but I have been with very large women and also very very small women (I'm talking stature and vagina size). I myself have a rather wide and long penis but I can tell you the only problem I've ever had was with a woman who was very tight and small. This is just my own personal thing but I can not tolerate being 'squeezed' or 'gripped' by a woman. I'm not saying I will lose my erection and flee for the hills, but I just don't like the feeling at all. I love the feeling of loose and wet and pussy. I really do not enjoy small or clenching vaginas. That's just my preference but I thought I would share it since not many here seem to have spoken for that side. For the record, the large women I dated did not have correspondingly huge vaginas. But the woman with the tiny vagina was tiny in stature and build too. So height does not seem to correspond with vaginal length in my experience.