Masturbation has long been a solo activity for most men and women.
This seems to be a very private activity and one that people are
not always willing to share with their partners. I know that a
lot of partners are threatened by their partners need or desire
to masturbate. They usually feel like there is something that
they are not providing for their partner or that they are inadequate
sexually or don’t sexually satisfy their partner. So rather
than have their partners be disappointed or upset they sneak into
the bathroom and masturbate privately and hope not to get caught.
Sharing a masturbation experience can be one of the most intimate
acts you can experience with your partner. I find that for me
it gives me an opportunity to observe my partner and watch his
reactions as he masturbates. I don’t feel threatened by
his masturbation. Quite often it occurs when I am not really in
the mood to do anything about his erection. I enjoy watching him
take care of himself – actually I find it very fascinating
to tell the truth.
On the other side of the coin is a completely different feeling
when I masturbate myself and he watches. It’s that feeling
of being caught with one’s hand in the cookie jar that adds
a little extra spice to the situation. The fact that someone is
watching tends to heighten the sensation for myself. I can easily
get lost and imagine that several people are watching me get off.
Mutual masturbation can be done as foreplay to intercourse or
it can be done all on it’s own right to orgasm. Either way
it can be a lot of fun and create a very intimate session for
you and your partner. If you have sex toys that you enjoy playing
with they can come in very handy when you are pleasuring each
other in this fashion. At times my partner will be masturbating
and I will join in by rubbing his balls for him or even sucking
them into my mouth. This also works equally well the other way
around. I will massage my clitoris while he runs his fingers across
the inside of my thighs, dipping into my vagina and rubbing the
area around my clitoris. I’ve found it very erotic to have
my fingers touching his as they roam across my private parts.
Personally I have found that mutual masturbation is a great activity
for those lazy days, when you really don’t want to crawl
out of bed at all. This is definitely a great way to wake up!
Lying beside each other it’s fairly easy to reach over and
run your fingers through his pubic hair or skim your fingers lightly
over his balls and cock. As you play you will notice that his
cock will arise to the occasion. At this point if he hasn’t
already started to work his hands over towards your pussy there’s
nothing wrong with grabbing his hand and directing it to your
pussy yourself. He’ll get the idea.
Lubrication is always a good idea. If there isn’t enough
lubrication then sensitive skin can become chafed and extremely
uncomfortable. Now there are many different types of lubrication
that you can use. Some of the choices you will make in choosing
lubrication might depend on whether or not you’re going
to indulge in oral sex afterwards. If this is the case then you
want to use something that will at least taste good and not leave
a bad taste in your mouth. There are lots of love lotions available
from the sex shops that will fill the bill here. If taste isn’t
an issue then go with a water-soluble based lubrication. If things
start to dry out you just have to add a little bit of moisture
to it and you’re all set to go again. If you don’t
have any of the lubrication above available then just use what
comes naturally which is your saliva and juices that your body
produces when you are sexually aroused.
Mutual masturbation can be done in a number of different positions.
It’s simply a matter of finding what is the most comfortable
for you and your partner.
most common position is lying side by side on your backs in the
bed. Your arm will cross over your partner’s arm or vice
versa and reach to their most sensitive spots. I find that sometimes
I have to scoot down the bed a little ways to make the reach a
little easier. I’m shorter than he is by a bit. This position
also works quite well when you are sitting on the couch watching
television or even perhaps watching a naughty movie.
Another position that can be used for mutual masturbation is
for you both to be sitting facing one another with genitals close
together. I think it’s easiest if this is done in a semi-recline
position so that you are able to reach your partner’s genitals
Strokes & Techniques
I was going to list a bunch of strokes and techniques that you
could each use on your partners. I’ve since changed my mind.
What I’d like to do with this section is have my readers
send me in their favourites or techniques that work really well
for them and I will add them to the bottom of this page. I’m
looking forward to seeing what kind of inventive methods you’ve
all come up with.