Ok ladies, let’s have a look at some different techniques
that will work to get you off. The majority of women can only
attain orgasm through manual stimulation. There are few who can
achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. Anyway, here are some
techniques that might add a little variety to your masturbation
play.
Direct clitoral stimulation:
Rolling, rolling, rolling –
ok, for this technique you need to place your thumb and forefinger
around the clitoris and gently roll it in between your fingers.
You can start off with a slow gentle roll and then gradually pick
up the pace and the pressure according to what feels good to you.
Circular rub – I generally
find that if I am in a hurry this technique works wonders. Just
take your first two fingers from either hand and place them over
top of you clitoris. Then begin moving them in a circular motion
over top of the clitoris. You can vary the speed and pressure
easily with this technique. I find that if I use this one I can
reach orgasm in under a minute. If you want to change the feel
slightly just add your favourite lube and everything becomes very
slippery.
Tapping – This technique is
a little different and it’s not for everyone, as with anything
some things will work for some people and not for others. For
this one I use my left hand to pull the pussy lips back out of
the way so that the clitoris is very exposed. Then with my index
finger on my right hand I lightly begin tapping the fingertip
gently on the clitoris. It results in a very delicious sensation
that builds to a point where you just can’t hold it back
anymore.
Combination – There is nothing
that gets me wetter faster than using a combination of both hands.
Have your fingers from one hand playing with your clitoris, stimulating
it however you wish. Take the other hand and place two or three
fingers inside your vagina and begin thrusting. Basically you’re
simulating intercourse with this action and it works rather nicely
in tandem with the clitoral stimulation and can bring you to a
rocking orgasm!
Waterworks
Water is your friend. It can be used in a multitude of ways to
get you off! Try these out. Please avoid sending strong streams
of water directly into your vagina as that can be potentially
dangerous.
Running Water – I’m
sure you’ve all stuck your hands under the water flow when
you’re filling the tub for your bath to check the temperature
of the water. Now, just imagine that same water flow landing on
your clitoris. It’s a wild feeling. This is the first way
that I ever got off, before I even realized what it was that it
was doing. The only thing you need for this one is some time and
a bathtub. Hopefully your bathtub will be shaped properly so that
you can slide your butt down against the end of the tub and position
yourself so that the water flow will land on your clitoris. It’s
best to start of with a lighter water flow and gradually work
up to a higher pressure flow. Make sure that you test the warmth
of the water before sticking your pussy under it, wouldn’t
want to get scalded in that area!
Water Spray – this on is just
a bit of a variation on the one above. In this instance just place
your thumb or finger over the faucet and then direct the spray
so that it falls directly on your clitoris.
Shower Massage – this is a
great one if you’ve got one of those shower massage devices
because you can pick whether it pulses or comes out in a steady
spray. There are many options; you’ll have to experiment
with them to see what works best for you. Here again, you can
adjust the pressure and temperature of the spray to whatever you’d
like them to be. I’ve found on occasion that using cold
water produces a different feeling than the warm water.
Jacuzzi Jive – If you’re
lucky, you will have private access to a Jacuzzi and you’ll
be able to take advantage of the water flow from the jets! This
is one to be careful with since the flow of water from the jets
has considerably more pressure behind it than that from the shower
or bathtub. My recommendation is to start a fair distance back
from the jets and then move yourself closer to find the pressure
level that works for you. All you need to do is position yourself
so that the water flow lands directly on your vagina and clitoris.
Once you’ve found the right spot let yourself go and enjoy
the warm water and indulge in a little fantasy.
Good Vibrations:
Vibrators are handy little gadgets and in my opinion every woman
should have one tucked away in a drawer for those moments when
you really need it. Vibrators are primarily used for clitoral
stimulation but can also be used vaginally or anally if you prefer.
You can try different combinations out to see which you like best.
Clit rub – Vibrators are great
for clitoral control since you can change alter the speed of the
vibration easily and bring yourself to the edge and then slow
it down again. Pressure is a key factor as well. You may also
want to try rubbing the vibrator over your inner thighs and around
your pussy lips and even up over your nipples. Masturbation doesn’t
have to be confined to just the clitoral area.
Dildos:
A good dildo will provide you with hours of entertainment for
when you’re going solo or even when you’ve got a partner
to play with. It’s well worth the money to spend and get
a good one that’s going to last for a long time. You want
to make sure that the surface is easily cleaned. Some of the latex
ones have pores in them which makes them very difficult to keep
clean. There’s some really cool gel dildos on the market
these days. Check out your local love shop and see what they have
to offer. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
External Stimulation – using
the dildo on the outside of your body is probably the easiest
way to do things to start off with. Here are a couple of ideas
to get you started, first of all apply some lube to the dildo
and lay it flat on a hard chair. Then if you position yourself
above it and sit down so that the dildo runs the full length from
the crack of your ass all the way up to your clit and slide yourself
back and forth on it. This will provide all kinds of stimulation.
Head – You can also use the
head of the dildo (it’s shaped pretty much like the real
thing) and rub it against your clitoris. By applying pressure
and moving the head over your clitoris in an up and down or circular
motion you can provide great stimulation to the clit. The more
pressure you apply the faster you will come. On the other hand,
just using light pressure will take you longer to reach the climax
but the result will be a more intense orgasm. For better control,
you may find it easier to use two hands to grip the dildo.
Internal Stimulation – The
dildo also does a wonderful job when inserted into the vagina
as well. Such a multipurpose kind of toy. One of the things you
need to consider is the size of your dildo; it doesn’t have
to be a huge monster to be effective. Simply find one that is
wide enough to be snug inside your vagina and longer than what
you need to insert as you have to have something to hold onto.
Find a comfortable position to be in while you play. Insert the
dildo into your vagina and then begin moving it in an in and out
fashion. Depth of the thrusts is entirely dependent on how you
feel, and the sensation will be different at different depths.
Once you’ve established a bit of a rhythm start rubbing
or stroking your clitoris in time with the strokes. If you want
something a little different try positioning the dildo so that
when it moves in and out it will pull a bit and stimulate the
clitoris that way.
Double Up – Dildos come in
many shapes and flavors so you can get whatever you’d like.
You might want to consider purchasing a dual dildo. This will
enable you to insert one end into your vagina and the other end
into your anus. This way you have double the thrusting pleasure
while you stimulate your clit. You can also combine the use of
a vibrator in one spot and a dildo in the other. If you were feeling
adventurous you could place a vibrating butt plug in your anus
and a vibrator in your vagina and stimulate your clit with your
fingers. The combinations are only limited by your imagination.
Odds N Ends:
Accessories – Some are other
accessories that you would have lying around the house that can
provide some interesting stimulation are pieces of furniture and
cushions or pillows. An ottoman works nicely for example if you
position yourself over it so that a corner of it pushes on your
clitoris when you move back and forth. For an extra buzz, trying
lifting your hands and feet off the ground when you cum. I haven’t
personally tried this although it’s supposed to give you
the feeling of flying.
Thigh Squeeze – There are
women out there who can achieve orgasm by simply squeezing or
rubbing their thighs together. This stimulates the clitoris indirectly.
It would be a great skill to have, then if you were out in public
and found yourself getting horny you could just take care of it
by squeezing your thighs together, no one would be any the wiser,
except maybe those people who are reading this. So the next time
you see a woman with her legs crossing and perhaps kicking her
foot to hide the fact that she’s grinding her thighs together
you’ll have to wonder what she’s really doing.
This technique will take a bit of practice to get it down to
a fine art, but that’s half the fun of learning new stuff
is the practice. When you masturbate at home, make it a habit
to press your thighs together when you have an orgasm. After you’ve
done this a few times it will become second nature to you. Once
you’ve mastered this then try pressing your thighs together
when you’re ready to orgasm and won’t be able to stop
it but haven’t actually climaxed yet. Take your hands away
and leave it to your legs to ride yourself over the top. This
isn’t going to work instantly, you may have a few attempts
that die painfully but eventually it will all come together and
you will be pleased with the results. Sooner or later with the
help of fantasy and association you should be able to proceed
using only your thighs from earlier and earlier in the masturbation.
Sounds like fun to me!
This
is from one of my readers.
I just wanted to say that I have been one of those lucky ones
who can cross her legs and come and I have an extra tip for those
who like that exhibitionistic thrill of having an orgasm in public
with all sorts of people around - this technique works much better
when your bladder is full!. It increases the "inside pressure"
on the clitoris. Beware though, after the orgasm, you really feel
the need to pee! (many thanks to leoK for this extra tip)
Tennis Anyone? - This one was sent
in to me by one of my readers and it's so cool. I'm just going
to paste in her description for you. The way I have gotten myself
off since as far back as I can remember, is by using a tennis
ball. I lay on my stomach and place the ball between my legs pressing
against my clitoris. My legs are together and crossed at the ankles.
I then begin to squeeze my inner thighs together and work the
ball in a humping motion so that it is pressing against my clitoris.
As I climax I continue to squeeze with my thighs. This is a very
quick way to get off and I usually get multiple orgasms this way.
(many thanks to Baynut38)
Panties for You? - This is another
great suggestion from one of my readers. Once again I am just
going to paste in her description for you rather than paraphrasing
it.
All my life (after the very first time when I used the backside
of a tablespoon) I've used my panties to masturbate. Basically
I tug them up into my crack, both front and back, and then tug
on the front just over my clitoral area. Positioning of the cloth
is important- it needs to be spread rather evenly over the clit
so it doesn't become painful- and of course the cloth itself.
I've torn up quite a few pairs of panties! There are some advantages
to using panties. Tugging really creates a sensation of pushing
against the clit, and around back the cloth is being pulled against
the anus, stimulating it as well. The same applies to, say, masturbating
with slacks or even jeans. (thanks Michelle)