This tutorial will take you through the art of cunnilingus from
start to finish. What I’m hoping to do is to give you information
that will improve your oral sex techniques, give you some new
ideas or confirm what you already know. Keep in mind that these
are my personal opinions and things that work for me. I personally
love nothing more than having someone lapping at my pussy, teasing
and taunting and finally bringing me to orgasm.
There are many men out there who love nothing better than to
bury their faces in woman’s pussy to lick and explore to
their hearts content. On the other hand there are many men who
want no part of this. At the same time there are woman who do
not enjoy having their pussy licked. These are things that you
need to know ahead of time before you get into a lovemaking session
that is destined to go wrong because you don’t know enough
about each other. It’s becoming much easier to communicate
with another on what you like – sex isn’t the taboo
it once was. I’m also of the opinion that if the guy wants
me to suck his cock on a regular basis then he’d better
be prepared to put in equal time on my pussy! This might sound
a little selfish to you because pleasing my partner is supposed
to turn me on. It does, but at the same time there has to be the
same consideration coming back the other direction. If all my
partner ever wants is to have me suck on his cock and do nothing
in return it’s not going to be long before I goes on strike
and won’t suck my partner’s cock either unless I’m
really in the mood for it.
If you have a concern with smell or taste of your woman then
perhaps you might want to start your session off with a shower
and soap each other down and have fun. Perhaps you might even
incorporate shaving of both partner's genitals into this scenario.
I personally like to be touched and teased and warmed up before
my partner just latches on to my clitoris and starts mauling it
to death. That can be a real shock to the system and cause your
partner to throw you across the room even though you had the best
A good way to get started is to start by kissing your partner.
Remember the day when you were only dating and that’s all
you did was sit and neck? Why not revisit those memories? It’s
a great way to start the sexual juices flowing. While you and
your partner are exchanging all these wonderful kisses run your
hands over your partners body skimming across all her erogenous
zones, arousing her body.
Gradually move your fingers to run over the inside of her thighs
and then brush lightly over her pubic mound making sure not to
touch the clitoris or the inner labia. This is a good time to
start working your way down over her breasts and stomach heading
towards her most private areas. Now how long you want to tease
is entirely up to you, although if you make her wait for too long
you might find that her hands come up and grab you by the ears
and push your face deep into her pussy. That would be a good indication
that she wants you to step up the pace a little.
I can’t stress enough that there is no right or wrong way
to provide your partner with good cunnilingus. It will vary from
woman to woman on what they enjoy and how much pressure they like.
The best bet is to start by communicating to find out what she
likes and then as you try different techniques or strokes to make
a note of which ones make her moan or get a reaction good or bad.
From there you can then refine and improve your technique.
You can experiment with different positions to find what works
best for you. The ones that come to mind that have worked well
for my partner and I are as follows:
Lying flat – in this instance you can have your partner
lie on the bed on her back with her knees slightly bent and spread
as wide apart as is comfortable for her. You can then lie between
her legs and slide your arms under each of her legs (kind of like
a hug) and that will position your head appropriately.
Edge – in this instance you can have your partner slide
down the edge of the bed and lean back, perhaps propped up on
pillows in a semi-sitting position. You would then kneel on the
floor in front of her and start working your magic on her.
69 – in this instance you and your partner can either lie
facing one another or have the man on top or the woman on top.
The drawback to this position is that it’s easy enough to
forget what you’re supposed to be doing if your partner
is also working on you. The one I like best is when I get to be
on top and can grind my pussy into my partner’s face. However
please note that in this position you will get quite wet!
Note to the ladies: It is worth your while to do your Kegels.
This exercise will help you to increase the strength of your pubococcygeus
(PC) muscles that form the pelvic floor between the legs. The
toning of these muscles which contract during orgasm, helps a
lot of women to climax more easily.
To do the exercise simply tighten up your muscles as if you were
going to stop the flow of urine. Hold in that position for about
3 seconds, then relax for 3 seconds and repeat. You can gradually
build up the number of repetitions you do.
Now we’ll discuss some of the different tongue techniques
you can use on your partner. For this section I’ve done
some research and compiled suggestions from people I know as to
what works and why. I can only provide insight from the receiving
point of because to date I haven’t been on the giving end
One of the key points here is to remember to make sure that the
clitoris and the vulva are sufficiently lubricated before you
start touching them. With the tongue this is pretty easily accomplished.
If you need to, gather up a little bit of spit in your mouth and
gently drop it down onto your partner’s sensitive area.
I have found that the heat from the saliva dropping onto my clitoris
and vulva to be very erotic.
You can create a wide variety of strokes and responses just by
altering the manner in which you use your tongue. It’s a
most versatile tool and it’s totally free! You couldn’t
ask for more.
I’m not going to go into elaborate detail here and suggest
that if you fold your tongue around a certain way to stimulate
your partner it will have the desired effect. I’m going
to give you some more general ideas with which you can then experiment
with and find what works best for you and your partner.
You don’t want to head straight for the clitoris with your
tongue; your best bet is to start by licking around the area.
Stick your tongue between the folds of the labia and lick. Start
at the perineum (found just below the vaginal opening) and lick
upward in one long stroke. Much like a cat does when cleaning
itself. Now you can either do one of two things, lick so that
your tongue comes up and brushes over the clitoris or stop just
short of it. Either way I’m sure that your partner will
start to squirm.
Another stroke that you can use when you’ve teased her
sufficiently is to lap at the clitoris with a pointed tongue –
much like a cat lapping at milk would do. This is a stroke that
can be used when she’s very close to orgasm to push her
over the edge. You can speed up the rate of the lapping or slow
it down, or combine slow and fast in any rhythm of your choosing.
Just remember to listen to your partner’s responses so that
you know whether she’s enjoying the sensations or you’re
totally pissing her off.
you’re feeling adventuresome then there are a couple of
other things that you can try if you are so inclined. One of them
is to try dipping your tongue into your partner’s vaginal
opening. You can vary the depth of the thrusts and the speed.
The other thing you can do is to put your fingers to good use.
My recommendation would be to use the fingers once you know she’s
fully excited and you can sometimes tell this by the way her hips
are bucking up and trying to push hard against your face. I know
that I sure like the feeling of having the fingers of my partner’s
fingers thrusting in and out of my pussy while he is sucking on
my clit at the same time. It’s a most wonderful feeling
and makes me cum very quickly.
Another good place to use your fingers while sucking and licking
your partner’s pussy would be to lubricate them and gently
rub around the opening to the anus. There are a lot of nerve endings
there and many women enjoy that type of stimulation. If your partner
is into it you may even be able to insert the tip of your finger
into the anus. If your partner is not one who enjoys this type
of stimulation then stop if she requests you to.
Some women will be quite happy to stop at one orgasm, while others
will want as many as you can give them. It has been my experience
that successive orgasms require a little more aggressive touch
and stimulation. I have also found that there comes a point when
the clitoris is so over stimulated that you might feel like you
can possibly have another orgasm or that the clitoris is just
too sensitive to touch. If your partner is finding that her clitoris
is too sensitive she will be sure to let you know that in no uncertain